Giving Our Gifts to Others

The title of my daily devotion yesterday was “It’s All a Gift”. The article talked about a classy café in London called “Café Rendezvous” where everyone who comes in eats for free. There are no prices and even no donation jar.  Walk in, order what you want, eat, and leave. What a wonderful concept!

Reading this brought to mind something I tried some years ago. About 15 years ago, I built a facility in Ghana and decided to offer free daycare to children from poor families. I registered the business as a non-profit and even bought a van and put “Free Daycare” on it. The intention was to transport these children to the facility on a daily basis to give the poor working mothers a needed respite so they could earn money to support their families. I worked on recruiting children, but then I had to return to the U.S. I handed over the reins of the business to a friend who tried to make it a for-profit venture for himself. Subsequently, I gave the facility to a church, and to this day, they still worship there at no cost to them. I do get lots of free payers, which I very much need.

I recount this story, because, according to the manager of the Rendezvous Café, “we’re just trying to treat people the way God treats us”. During this season of giving, we must realize that EVERYTHING we have is a gift from God – none of it belongs to us. We have what we have because of God’s generosity, and we should be thankful.

Different Lenses

There are over 7.7 billion people in the world, and no two of us are the same. We do not think the same, and so we will disagree on some issues because our backgrounds, experiences, race and ethnicity, religions, professions, etc., may be different. These are the factors that shape our beliefs, behaviors, and how we think.

There is an idiom that says “Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes”.  Or experience his trials and tribulations. It is impossible to know what someone has experienced unless you experience it yourself. How can one truly empathize unless one has lived the experience? When it comes to difficult and painful situations, there is no such thing as a vicarious experience.

Our differences (the definition of diversity) ensure that we do not think the same way and are bound to disagree because our lenses are different. To make any progress, it is important to first seek to understand before being understood. Understanding and tolerance are the hallmarks of progress in this broken and imperfect world.


Simple Lessons on Respect, Courtesy, and Culture

As much as I hate to start my blog posts with the word “I”, I was afraid I was going to have to this time, but as you can see, I did not.

I have lived for over half a century (wow, that’s a long time!) and spent that time in four different countries and several states.  Also during this time, I have traveled all over the world, including Asia, Western Europe, Eastern Europe, Latin America and the Caribbean. Heck, I have even been to Canada.

Here are a few little pointers that I have picked up in my travels and just plain living.

  • The words “please” “excuse me” and “thank you” go over well in any culture and with anybody.
  • Be observant when you meet people wearing a name tag. I cannot believe how many people I meet, while I have my name tag on, still ask me my name or what I do. Most of the time I point to my name tag.
  • Greeting or acknowledging people as you pass them is appreciated in every culture and everywhere. I never pass anyone on this campus without “speaking” (an expression we use in the South for acknowledgement).
  • When you meet someone for the first time and he/she hands you a business card, look at it and acknowledge the person’s position, company, name or something on the business card before putting it away. I learned this simple courtesy on a trip to China. In China, it is considered rude or insulting if a business card is received and simply put away. This makes too much sense to me.
  • When sending an email, one should begin with a salutation such as such as “Dear John”. If you know the person’s name, use it. If it is your initial communication with that person that day, it just makes sense to follow with a statement such as “I hope you are well” or “I hope you are still alive….” This is one of my pet peeves, people sending emails with no salutation or greeting.
  • Finally, kindness is an international language understood by all cultures.


October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. According to, 41,400 deaths (40,920 women and 480 men) will occur from breast cancer this year. Cancer, this terrible scourge continues to devastate and decimate families and lives all over the world. I am sure all of us have been directly impacted or have friends and family who have been affected by this terrible disease. I personally have lost several family members to cancer, and specifically breast cancer over the last few years. It is a terrible disease and we must do our part to fight it. If you are so inclined, there are many local organizations that you can join or donate to. The Relay for Life will be coming up again before we know it; MCCC should have a team. Please let me know if you would like to join our team.

Please join us in “celebrating” breast cancer awareness month by wearing pink sometime this week. We will arrange to pass out pink ribbons throughout the month. Let’s keep our friends,  loved ones, and even those we do not know in our thoughts and prayers.


Boot Camps and Opportunity – Alicia Harrell, a Success Story

Everyone knows that there is skilled workforce shortage. This is a local as well as national problem, and we at Monroe County Community College are attempting to do something about it. One solution was to create an advanced manufacturing “boot camp” for adult learners who were attempting to earn a GED at the Learning Bank or the Adult Centers in Bedford and Milan.

Our first Boot Camp was in 2017. We started with 19 students and surprisingly, 18 completed the entire six-week program. These individuals received soft skills training as well as training in CAD, Electronics, Welding, CNC Machining, and Robotics. The boot camps are free for the students thanks to a grant received from the Greater Ann Arbor Region (GAAR) Prosperity Initiative.

Many who enrolled had no clue what they wanted to do with their lives and were still struggling to earn their GEDs. Upon completion, some enrolled in college, others were offered employment, and almost all earned their GED certificates.

We have since offered subsequent boot camps with fewer students. Someone mentioned yesterday that the boot camps are the only attempt we make at MCCC to reach our local adult population.  While some are critical of the boot camp model, this grant is to provide opportunity for the less fortunate in our community and to make a difference in their lives, even as we at MCCC make our contribution to local economic development by providing training for more skilled workers. So, here is a quick story about the impact these boot camps are having on students, the College, and community.

Yesterday, Alicia Harrell, a 43-year-old African-American female who completed the boot camp in November of last year stopped by to see me to tell me her story. She began by thanking me profusely for conceiving of the boot camp concept and for giving her an opportunity to be a part of it. When she enrolled in the boot camp, she had no employment, no GED, and no money. She completed the boot camp, after which she earned her GED and enrolled in our Welding 115 class. Upon completion of the class, she was hired by Sunli Steel as a welder/fabricator. She is now enrolled at MCCC in our associate degree in welding program, is gainfully employed, and is well compensated. That is success!

This is why we do what we do! Making a difference in people’s lives by enriching and transforming their lives through such experiences. This is the story of only one student, but there are so many more who have been positively impacted by the opportunities that programs such as our boot camps provide.

Remembering September 11, 2001

Yesterday marked the 18th anniversary of the September 11th attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon.  I can’t believe it has been 18 years already.  Terrorists hijacked four planes and killed almost 3,000 people on American soil in just one day.  Truly a day that will live in infamy!

As we mark the 18th anniversary of one of the saddest days in American history, let us not forget the families of those who died on that day.  Let us also remember that terrorism is still alive and well. Al Qa’ida, ISIL, Boko Haram, and many others are still plying their trade and committing atrocities all over the world, and yes, even here in the United States.

The negative effects of that day have impacted and will continue to impact all of us perhaps forever; the world has changed. That day continues to impact families who continue to lose loved ones from the after-effects of the World Trade Towers bombing; it has led to more tension between Muslims and non-Muslims and more killings; it has impacted our comfort and the way we travel and so much more.

We must remain vigilant as we mourn the deaths of so many. The terrorists will not relent, because they are driven by one of the strongest emotions of all – hate. I know of only one other emotion that is stronger than that – love.


Emotions, Images, and Tolerance

As I began writing this blog, I thought about comparing powerful emotions. But then I decided that perhaps emotions should not be compared, because each has its time and place. Emotions like love, grief, fear, joy, and hate. Yes, hate! Now, hate is indeed a very powerful emotion and has led to much death and destruction throughout history, and will unfortunately, lead to even more in the future. Is there a way to get beyond hate? If I had the answer, I would win the Nobel Prize.  One way, to not get beyond hate is to pretend it does not exist and have no conversations about it. There must be honest dialogue if we as a human race are to make any progress.

That brings me to the exhibit on hate and intolerance that is “THEM: Images of Separation”. This exhibit contains graphic images that include racist, sexual, and violent content that visitors may find upsetting (maybe a euphemism). But it is part of our ignominious history born out of hate and it is the truth! This exhibit is the brainchild of Dr. David Pilgrim, the founder and curator of the Jim Crow Museum at Ferris State University, Big Rapids Michigan. Please feel free to google it.

As controversial, offensive, horrifying, and repulsive as some of the images are, we at MCCC, as the center of intellectual excellence in Monroe County, felt it necessary to bring the exhibit here to elicit discussion and to further educate, edify, and illuminate our campus and community. This is how we learn.  More importantly, facing the uncomfortable truths about our past is how we as citizens can fight hate and prevent it from infecting future generations and repeating itself. It is a use of images of hate and intolerance to teach tolerance, understanding, and respect.

Please feel free to stop by the Library anytime over the next month. Warning signs are posted outside.